Wednesday, January 15th, 2014

Find the love that binds to find happiness in life


The message below I just received from Spiritualist Owen Waters seems particularly apt for the experiences so many of my clients and those close to me are experiencing. His words about people feeling alone in a crowd reminds me that so many of our miseries come from not being able to sit silently alone content in our company. Instead we rush to fill the void (at times the emptiness) with noise and distractions – emails, TV, technology and gadgets that increasing seem to be permanently strapped to our bodies. Equally we may feel unnaturally compelled to live up to others expectations, driven to please others and forgetting ourselves in the process.

So many increasingly crave time to just ‘be’ so they can reconnect with themselves and discover who they really are and who they really want to be. So many struggling with a sense of disconnect ache to find what makes their soul sing; to dance to their own music and follow their own path. But this is often a very different path others may approve of (family, friends etc.). It can take great strength and great courage to be true to yourself.

This was tragically brought home to me just after New Years when we learned the devastating news that our friend took his own life. His son, who had come to visit his father (our friend) from overseas for Christmas,  had told his father he was ashamed of him; that he was embarrassed his father (once a teacher) now painted houses for a living.  He hissed at him that the people he respected wore pinstripes.

Really!? When did what you wear, or what you do to earn money, become the totality of who you are as a person? I wonder if our friend’s son ever took the time to see who his father really was – his generosity, his love of life, his ready laugh. Or to hear the beautiful music he would play – whether by guitar, or piano or harmonica. Or to see the lovely watercolours he would paint? Did he ever see the way he would encourage other creative souls?

But to take your own life? Perhaps our friend felt alone in the crowd that was his ‘family.’ I can’t help but wonder perhaps if he could have read Owen’s words he might have though differently? Love binds and gentleness heals – what if he had reached out to speak to someone who understood what it can feel like to sense you are alone in a crowd. What if he had been encouraged to listen to the wisest counsel of all – his own soul, his own authentic self, the deepest part of himself that experienced the things and people that truly made him happy. I wonder if his life would have been different had he found his soul family – the people who loved and accepted him unconditionally; who made his soul sing.

I hope Owen’s message below and my sharing above inspires you to find the love that binds to find happiness in life. Never settle. Live your best life and surround yourself with people, situations and experiences that uplift, inspire and delight!

Sending you best wishes


Alone In A Crowd

by Owen K Waters

The Christmas and New Year’s Holidays are often a time of gathering together for friends and relatives. The holidays can also be a time when spiritually-aware people feel a certain aloneness, even in the midst of a crowd.

It helps to know what can cause such a sense of loneliness, and why it affects spiritually-aware people more so than others. Your outer personality is designed to focus upon the five senses and upon the experience of the outside world which those senses deliver. Your purpose here on Earth is to experience being an individual, and that is exactly why a sense of isolation can occur, especially during the holidays.

Just as each snowflake is unique, so is each person. Your primary purpose in life is to experience life from one individual, unique point of view. You are an expression of Infinite Being as it experiences itself from all possible viewpoints.

Because we are all connected within, we need to take a moment to go beyond the separated appearance of a room full of individuals and recall the inner connection that we share with the people around us.

Recalling that inner connection is not hard. At night, in the deepest level of sleep, you reconnect with your soul family and thrill at the union you all share. Soul families consist of people who resonate to the same ‘musical’ tone of consciousness as each other. Each person has a signature tone of consciousness which represents who they are.

When you meet people in your soul family at night, you know them by the unique signature tone of consciousness that radiates from them. It doesn’t matter how their spiritual body appears to your sense of spiritual vision, you know them by how their unique consciousness signal, their ‘signature tone,’ feels to you.

Each person belongs to a primary group of soul mates which, typically, numbers somewhere around eight souls. This primary group vibrates in close harmony with other groups which, in turn, vibrate in close harmony with still more groups. The number of people in an extended soul family can easily stretch to two thousand or more individuals. Among these, especially the closer ones, are the people that you interact with in meaningful ways as you pass through life on Earth together. In fact, you plan your life as a soul before you begin your life so that you can arrange to meet significant friends who will help you through significant events and experiences in that life.

Part of your consciousness lives with the pure essence of your soul family all the time, not just at night when the main focus of your attention rises through the spirit realms to meet them. It is your awareness of that soul family-connected part of yourself which makes you yearn for the close community that you experience in those other realms of consciousness.

The holidays are a good time to remember that, no matter how different people appear to each other through their surface personalities, deep down we are all one.

Feel the connection. Feel the love that binds all of life in this universe together, and remember that, in the ultimate reality,

We are all One. We are all aspects of Infinite Being.


Thursday, January 9th, 2014

How to have a happy new year

The quote on this image of Mona Lisa really sums up my philosophy and personal mantra (no doubt encapsulating Leonardo Da Vinci’s too.)

New year,  new you?  If you are as intrigued as I am re how to make 2014 a truly happy new year (beyond the casually tossed well wishes that last only into the first two weeks as people return from Xmas leave full of good cheer)  then why not try focusing on the talents and skills that when used make you feel truly happy, and combine the use of these talents with something that truly interests you.

For me this means combining coaching and writing with travel, art and photography and creating products and services that inspires and uplifts myself and others.

I’ve already locked in a trip to Puglia Italy to study photography with the fabulous Carla Coulson, and a writing course, as well as research for my novel Mona Lisa’s Secret, in Florence. Can’t wait!

And I can’t wait to resume my coaching – both training those with a passion for coaching others to achieve their dreams, and also coaching people who want to pursue their passions not their pensions. All these activities fit nicely with my theme this year, “The Art Spirit.” I’m so looking forward to working creatively, intuitively and spiritually…much more than I have in any other year.

If you were to combine your talents with your interests what would your life look like? What would you be doing? How can you make this vision of your life a reality?

Wishing you all a truly fabulous, passionate and joyful 2014. May you make this year one where you followed your heart and chose a path that allows you to truly follow your bliss…and still pay the bills :)